I went grocery shopping last night. I thought I'd get it done before the weekend because CCB is OFF! Woohoo! *happy dance* I don't know what it is with me. Somehow people just find me to be a willing audience. Two different employees just started chatting up a blue streak with me. I was fine at first but then it got uncomfortable when one started telling me about her sons drug use. The other told me about her son and daughter in law being unable to have children! I must have some neon sign above me saying "She'll listen!" I would start to slowly walk away and the first would just start talking again and the second one would follow me! Everything in me tells me to be polite but I was on a mission to get home before the kids went to bed! ARG!
THEN after I loaded my groceries up and was getting ready to start the engine I look up to see that the woman in the car parked facing me is crying. I wasn't sure at first but then she started to really sob. I really wanted to get out and tap on her window and ask her if she was ok. Then I thought, would I want some stranger tapping on my window? I don't like people to see me cry anyway so the answer would be no. I drove away feeling incredibly guilty. Would I have been any comfort to her? I don't know. CCB thinks I did the right thing. He says it might have embarrassed her. I'll ask you. What would you have done if you were me? If you were crying how would you react to someone tapping on your window?
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I would probably tell you to feck off and stop being a nosey cow!! Oh how I hate it when I get overly emotional in public places!
Depends on the person. Little old lady...maybe not so scared...giant bald headed dude...maybe so. ;)
Steve~
If I were you, I would have though, "Awww", then I would immediately get on the telly and call Christina and say, "Man, I just saw this chick crying in her car". Not exciting, but that's exactly what I would have done.
If I were the chick ... I'd look down my blouse.
I am no sure what I would have done, but if the spirit whispered to me to go over there and try to comfort her, then I would have done it. Sometimes I wonder what would happen if we showed more compassion. If she had said, "No, I'm alright", then at least you could say to yourself, that you tried.
I think you did the right thing. I don't know that I would want anyone coming up to me while I was crying and honestly, did you really want to listen to another person's problems last night? You needed to get home. Maybe she was just letting off some steam. Don't worry about it.
If she was in public, I would have checked on her, but in the car, I think she wanted privacy.
Could be a million and one reasons why she was crying. I think if it were me crying and I wanted to speak to someone I'd call a friend on my mobile. I think you did the right thing.
If you tapped on my window when i was crying, you would have fallen for my nefarious plot to relieve you of all your newly-bought groceries after having worn down your resistance with my gang inside the store. Or i would have been grateful, and pulled myself together a lot faster because i have a need to please coupled with a guuilt complex that would make me feel sorry I made you take 15 steps out of your way.
I guess it would depend on the person.If it was someone very young or very old I might have stopped. If it seemed like she was crying in pain or if she was pregnant. If I knew her. It's a judgement call. No doubt you went over the situation in your mind and made the right decision based on your own criteria. Most people wouldn't have even noticed. There's one thing for sure, you are more sensitive than most people and more caring and that is not a bad thing.
It's tought to say what I would do. It would definitely depend on the situation in terms of the person. I probably wouldn't inquire as most people don't do well when approached in sucha vulnerable state.
I def think you did the right thing. If she was crying in the middle of the grocery store, I might have said something, but since she was in her car, she def wanted privacy.
I would have asked, but rationalized I wanted to mnake sure it wasn't because her car was dead. I couldn't leave a woman stranded somewhere.
IF it was personal crap, and she started to blabber, I would have asked her to hold on while I got her sometiisues from my car.
Then, I'd have dropped it in gear and laid rubber getting away from the drama queen.
A dead battery, I'd have offered to help.
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