After much consideration, I've come to a decision. I am no longer going to feel like I am less successful than women who work outside the home. Has any working woman ever said anything of an ugly nature to me? NO. I've done it to myself. I've convinced myself that I'm not as interesting as women who work outside the home. When someone asks what I do for a living I say,"I'm just a housewife." JUST a housewife? I work hard around here, AND I enjoy it! How many people can honestly say they love what they do? I can.
I'm no longer making excuses for the fact that I enjoy the "domestic arts". I take care of our home inside and out as well as managing finances. Do I work every minute my husband is at his job? No. But I don't get days off either. I enjoy taking care of my family. The time I've spent at home with my children is more valuable than any paycheck I could have earned. CCB and I made the right choice for our family and I'm not going to belittle myself anymore.
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OGO - you have a harder job than most women that work in the professional world. I bet half those women couldn't hang taking care of kids and a home all day every day. And think about it. You don't get weekends away from the office. You are always at your job. I think being a home maker is one of the hardest and most respected jobs and you shouldn't feel ashamed or that you are not as good as women that work in an office all day. And I can assure you that you definitely work more at home than I do in my office every day. My boss wouldn't want to hear that but it's a fact! Rock on OGO - you have one of the most important jobs out there and you're lucky that you have the resources to be able to not have to work out of the home. Lots of people can't. Hell, i don't know if we could get along without my income so consider yourself lucky!
You're so right---it's about yourself. I was a better mother because I was working outside of the home as well as in it---that didn't make me better, just marginally smarter than some people who didn't do enough soul-searching to figure out what worked for them and their families. No guilt. Just cookies.
I think housewives should be paid. All hail housewives..
I was watching dr. phil and he had on a husband and stay at home mom who was upset because her husband wasn't very supportive. Anyways Dr. phil said that a stay at home's mom salary should be twice that of a professional. So keep giving yourself a pat on the shoulders you deserve it!
It's about time! The one thing that bus me more than anyhting is when a person chooses to stay at home with the kids and then thinks they are missing out on something. In reality it's the other who are missing out on their kids!
You ARE my hero! You are the reason our children are so well adjusted, so smart, and I love you for that!
Oh Great One - Don't you ever feel that you are less important than someone that works outside of the home. I really don't see how the ones that work outside the home do it. I waw a stay at home mom and I was busy, busy, busy.
I feel sorry of the moms who work OTH and miss their childs first steps. Two days ago, my daughter came over to visit with our 14 month old granddaughter. Jocelyne has been trying to walk for a while now, but two days ago, I got to watch her walk from the love seat to the TV. She took little baby steps and when if started to fall, she would balance herself and take another little baby step. How many mothers miss that precious milestone in their baby's life?
TF decided that I would stay home with our kids and I did not work outside the home the entire time they were growing up. I still don't work outside the home. I have a small business of my own that I run from my home. Many SAH moms can do that now days.
Mom's are moms, 24 hours a day. They clean, cook, do taxi driving, teach skills to their children, nurse and doctor them, work as room mothers and girl scout leaders and mirids or other jobs.
Please don't put yourself down, you are raising the next generation of responsible adult. Good luck in all that you do for your family.
Society has dictated that women should work both in and out of our homes. Why? It is all economic. It's actually less expensive for a family to live on one salary if you don't get caught up in all the spend, spend , spend. A working mother has to purchase childcare, meals out, fancy clothing, drycleaning for the fancy clothing, housekeeping services, a second car and car upkeep,and then all those "things " trying to fill up he emptiness of not being with your own kids. Kids need their Mom not just some nice babysitter.
I have no problem with women working both before and after they have kids. I think a little part time work or school can be good once the kids are all in school full time. I think women are being sold the idea that they must work outside the home and that they must have a career or they are "incomplete" persons. It takes a strong woman to make the decision to stay home.
Keep baking those cookies.
I really enjoy being a sahm! I love it and couldn't imagine doing anything else. You go girl!!!
A good decision!
Women are all hard on themselves. While you had convinced yourself that you aren't as interesting as women who work outside the home, there are countless of mothers who work outside the home who feel that they're not doing something right because they're not at home with their kids. We're so hard on ourselves. I'm glad you've made a conscious decision to not be so hard on yourself, and realize that your job is meaningful and important and tough in ways words can't properly describe.
Effin'-A, sister! Welcome to happy living.
Why does anyone do that to themselves about anything? Why? We beat ourselves up worse than anyone else ever could & for what?
good for you, it's a job I'd love to have, one of the most important ones, period.
I'm glad you cme to this conclusion. Moms (especially stay at homes) have a super tough job. Lets see..being the family physician, nurse, personal chef, housekeeper, gardener, accountant,...sigh..think about it. No days off, and no pay. Not in the monetary sense. But think of it..your payoff is you have kids who'll grow up to be law abiding, respectful contributing memebers of society. That is somethin I respect. And to hell to anyone out there who thinks stay at home moms don't do anything. Though you say no one has said it outright to you.lets face it..somehow you came to this conclusion. Society is telling us all in order to keep up with the Jonses, you have to have money. And at times that requires 2 people working. Women, especially moms are faced with an impossible double standard. If she works and leaves her kids with the nanny or sitter, than she's considered a bad mother cause she's not spending all hr waking moments with them. If she stays at home, the society think moms aren't contributing to the economy, and the way society operates..if you aren't contributig financially to the economy, then you're not a good person either. Its when the woman at home who decides to define herself the way she feels she is, and to hell with what the world says, to me, that shows me shes not only a great woman, but a great mom, because shes showing her kids that her position in life is one that commands respect. Oh Great One..you are truly a domestic goddess.
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